I’m losing all the friends!!?
i had 4 best friends going into high school,. im a junior now, when we were freshmen i knew about thier drinking but i wasnt willing to do it with them i want my first drink to be special and on my 21st birthday, lol anyway,but i still hung out with them outside of school any everything, even while they drank, well my sophmore year they would do things together but never invite me like the use to, i saw pictures and things on ones myspace. at school they dont really talk to me anymore and its kind of like we never had a relationship in the first place, and when i talked to one she said well its hard to have a friendship with someone who makes different decisions, i dont really have other friends besides them, and i still want to be friends with them, what should i do?
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4 comments
sazziie on March 16, 2010 at 12:07 pm
i had friends who did stuff like that at a young age. i didnt join in and we drifted apart. it sounds like the same thing has happened to you.
i made new friends. you will too
dont get hung up on still being in with these guys. theyre not real friends and one day you will find people who appreciate you!
Elle on March 16, 2010 at 1:00 pm
Get new friends. Seriously.
They don’t respect your decision to stay sober, therefore they aren’t good people.
High school is about learning who you are and meeting new people that are actually genuine and what not.
Branch out.
Join a sport and meet new people.
PJ on March 16, 2010 at 1:05 pm
I’m in my freshman year of college, and the same thing happened to me. I had two really good friends who, in 1st semester, were great. But 2nd semester, decided to go partying and whatnot. I’m not like that, and the friendship has suffered greatly.
First of all, be really really proud of yourself for not going against your personal decisions. That shows how strong your character is.
Second, I know it’s rough wanting to be friends with them. That’s how it was for me at the beginning, too. It hurt a lot because I had some really great memories together with them, but after some time, I got over them. I realized that they weren’t as awesome as I had thought they were. I didn’t have any other friends either, and made the decision to go it alone for a little bit, and focus on my classes. After sitting alone in class, and sometimes sitting with other “loners” (who are really nice, by the way) I started making new friends.
I’m still in the process of forming bonds with these new people, but they’re very nice, and they like having the same type of fun as I do.
You may not have other friends now, but if you choose not to spend time with the girls, then you’ll naturally have more time for other people. You’d be surprised how fast you’ll make new, perhaps better friends.
Good luck!
Stephanie on March 16, 2010 at 1:37 pm
Well,
GOOD FOR YOU. Seriously, stick to your guns. Don’t do stupid things just because your “friends” do it. And you don’t – so that’s great.
Wow, these “friends” of yours idiots if they are leaving you out because you’re being smart.
Dump those losers! You obviously need to branch out more, and make other friends. If you stick to the same people all the time, people are not going to want to approach you, and try to be friends with you because you don’t seem like you really want any other friends. You need to branch out, and QUICKLY because if you don’t do it soon, people are not going to accept you into their circles of friends as easily.
Again, your “friends” are jerks, and why would you want to be friends with people who don’t want to be friends with you?
Just DUMP ‘EM.